When someone has lost your trust, there are times when you need to learn to let go of your mid-trust or not. This article will teach you how to discern the differences between the two and how to trust again if you need to.
These are the steps:
First of all, you have to determine whether it's worth it.
1.List all of the reasons you currently don't trust the person.
2.Rate the items on the list on a 1-3 scale of how severe they were (see tips for examples of severity). This is your most important consideration. Even one item in the major category can destroy a friendship.
3.Review the length of your list. If it only has one or two minor-medium offenses, then perhaps working on regaining your trust is a good idea. On the other hand, if the list is long then perhaps you need to reconsider trusting the person, at least for the time being.
4.Determine how long ago the last offense occurred. Events that happened a long time ago should more than likely be forgiven. For example if your boyfriend or girlfriend was stolen 3-5 years ago, perhaps it's time to begin the healing process and forgive them.
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